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The Crisses

When we were 16 we discovered that we weren't alone in our head. And we decided to live as an intentional family. Since, we've been diagnosed, asked whether we wanted to integrate, embarked on a journey of wrestling with PTSD and triggers, unloaded a boatload of baggage, and decided that we enjoy our shared life. This podcast covers many issues about being multiple, about living together in harmony, and more. We are the main contributor to and admin for Kinhost.org, Crisses.org and our newest website TheCrissingLink.com.
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    September 10, 2017 @ 3:00 pm

    019 - United Front: Please Wipe Your Feet Before You Come In

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    United Front: Please Wipe Your Feet Before You Come In (019)

    Starting with and expanding on the United Front Boot Camp post of the same name: leaving your baggage and triggers outside of your meetings and greetings to form internal community.

    When you're starting your internal community, it's best to be on your best behavior with one another and leave your mess outside the meeting room. We go into our "As inside, so outside (and vice versa)" metaphor of treating your system like any household, and wiping the slate and starting over again as new acquaintances in your internal "home".

    Trigger warning: As always, these episodes may not be appropriate while driving. Please mind your triggers, and put our podcasts on broadcast in your internal landscape so anyone who wants to can listen in.

     

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    The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

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    September 4, 2017 @ 11:51 am

    018 - Do Multiples Exist? - 2017 Update

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    Do Multiples Exist? - 2017 Update (018)

    The not-ranty version, covering much of the same ground as episode 017 with an update for new developmental models of DID.

    I had to apologize for the quality of the 2005 recording in episode 017 — and maybe apologize for the rant, too. People with mental health issues get the short end of the stick, but with DID, we often get it from inside the mental health community, and that's just not acceptable. So I can get pretty ranty.

    In this episode, you get information and less rantiness. Much less cursing, but that's not hard lol. Same topics plus 1 more on Developmental Theory. More organized, more coherent, less ranty.

    1. The theory that identities we experience are all "parts" of 1 person.
    2. Behaviorism -- and any purely scientific models.
    3. The whole idea that multiples may be "making it up" because it's "convenient" in some way.
    4. False Memory Syndrome (FMS) -- we don't mention it by name, but we do talk about it a bit. Essentially a group of people attempting to discredit the idea that memories of abuse can be misplaced and later recovered.
    5. Developmental theory -- new ideas and thoughts on how people become multiple: you were never 1 person in the first place.

    Trigger warning: There's a lot less cursing, maybe no cursing here, less vehemence and a much more positive ending with the information on recent developmental theories on DID. This episode is not particluarly triggering but of course, please be careful about your own triggers and if you think others want to hear it, put it on the Public Address System in your head so they don't have to front to listen.

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    September 2, 2017 @ 6:14 pm

    017 - Do Multiples Exist? - 2005 Remaster

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    Rant alert!! Dug up an old poor-quality recording, remastered it, and posted it.

    I recorded many episodes for the original Many Minds series while driving to and from work, then found out the hard way that my audio editing prowess was not up to the task of remastering them after work. This is an episode I think is necessary and powerful, but suffered because I had plugged my iPod into the car charger. It was a total disaster with a very loud electronic hum in the middle of my vocal range. It's now remastered to "somewhat acceptable". I apologize for the quality of this recording.

    We go into a few different theories of multiplicity, and then it becomes a rant.

    1. The theory that identities we experience are all "parts" of 1 person.
    2. Behaviorism -- and any purely scientific models.
    3. The whole idea that multiples may be "making it up" because it's "convenient" in some way.
    4. False Memory Syndrome (FMS) -- we don't mention it by name, but we do talk about it a bit. Essentially a group of people attempting to discredit the idea that memories of abuse can be misplaced and later recovered.

    Trigger warning: There's quite a lot of cursing in this episode. We're pretty vexed by accusations that we don't exist or that we're faking it, or that it's somehow convenient to forget things or suddenly have a change of religion or dietary preferences. If you're multiple, maybe you'll enjoy us ranting on your behalf. But we do curse a good bit especially towards the end of the episode where we rant about FMS.

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    Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

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    August 20, 2017 @ 4:08 pm

    016 - Trigger Topics: Coffee and Deprogramming Triggers

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    Recording on deprogramming and managing triggers from 2011 when we were triggered by the smell of coffee.

    Even once you have managed to work on most of your triggers, new ones can come up, ones you didn't expect or new aspects of old triggers. Here's a recording of when we were triggered in May 2011 and some of the ideas we've used to manage and work on triggers.

    Trigger warning: This discusses an active trigger, having switched between a protector or persecutor and a little, and is recorded by Hart, who is working on managing the trigger and discussing different ways the Crisses manage triggers. There's some minor cursing and discussion of different things that play into our coffee trigger.

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    August 12, 2017 @ 8:34 pm

    015 - Gaining Time: Developing a Mindfulness Practice

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    What's the opposite of losing time? Does time really go faster as you get older, or are you simply allowing it to rush away from you?

    Where anxiety is "What if…?" and depression is "If only…" it takes mindfulness to help pull us back into present time and reality. We can become more firmly anchored in the Here & Now, in our surroundings and in the reality of our current circumstances, rather than replaying the past or dreading the future.

    This episode is for anyone who is not firmly anchored in the present, who watches time go by too quickly, who is uncomfortable in their body, and needs to get reacquainted with true present-tense reality.

    Trigger warning: Definitely don't listen to this episode while driving. Once you are good at being mindful, you can do it whenever you'd like to — so long as you keep your open eyes on the road and two hands on the wheel.

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    Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

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    July 30, 2017 @ 12:01 pm

    014 - System Trust Issues: Building Trust

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    System Trust Issues: Building Trust (014)

    Now that you've stopped the constant eroding your system trust, what can you do to proactively build it up?

    Part 2 of 2 capstone episodes on System Trust Issues. Click for the first episode: Compromising Trust.

    What are some proactive steps you can take to foster system trust? What changes do you and your headmates need to make to be more trust-worthy? How do you gain trust rather than lose it? Topics include: Locus of Control, Attitude Adjustments, Role-Modeling Behavior, Firm Internal Discipline and Enforcement, How to become more Trustworthy, Ownership (vs. buy-in).

    Trigger warning: Please don't listen while driving and perhaps listen with a good friend and as usual listening could always trigger something for you. It's always possible others in your head are interested, so a little tip: Listen with the intent for everyone in your system to be able to hear it too: put it on an internal loudspeaker, so that they don't need to front to hear.

     

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    The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

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    July 30, 2017 @ 11:58 am

    013 - System Trust Issues: Compromising Trust

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    System Trust Issues: Compromising Trust (013)

    What is happening in your system that erodes trust and makes it so that it's impossible to even tread water?

     
    Part 1 of 2 capstone episodes on System Trust Issues. Click for the second episode: Building Trust.

    What are the common issues that systems experience that erode trust? What do you need to change so that you and your headmates can get along better? What might you be doing that sabotages system trust? Topics include: You are probably not "the good guy" (and there is no "bad guy" cf episode 009), Sharing your life, Desire to integrate too soon, Words and names matter, Coercive language and behavior, Internal safety, The company you keep.

    Trigger warning: Please don't listen while driving and perhaps listen with a good friend and as usual listening could always trigger something for you. It's always possible others in your head are interested, so a little tip: Listen with the intent for everyone in your system to be able to hear it too: put it on an internal loudspeaker, so that they don't need to front to hear.

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    The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

    Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

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    July 24, 2017 @ 9:13 pm

    012 - Panic Reactions: 8 Important F-Words

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    Panic Reactions: 8 Important F-Words (012)

    We've all heard of "fight or flight" reactions. In this episode we outline 8 different panic reactions and how they play out in multiplicity.

    Why are there predictable roles in a multiple system? We outline 8 "F-Word" panic reactions: Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, Follow, Fortify, Fabricate and Facilitate, and then tie them into roles we play in our multiple system and why it's important to helping build system trust.

    This is part of a series of podcasts leading up to a capstone on System Trust Issues.

    Trigger warning: A few mentions of panic-worthy situations, internal prosecutors, and as usual we could always trigger something. It's always possible others in your head are interested, so a little tip: Listen with the intent for everyone in your system to be able to hear it too: put it on an internal loudspeaker, so that they don't need to front to hear.

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    The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

    Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

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    July 17, 2017 @ 7:00 am

    011 - Boundaries and Empathy

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    Boundaries and Empathy (011)

    More on what is separate, and what ought to be.

    When the world pushes up against us, it can penetrate our defenses and leave us defenseless, or with unmanageable boundaries and leaks inside and out. What are boundaries? How do boundaries relate to empathy and what do we need to fix them?

    This is part of a series of podcasts leading up to a capstone on System Trust Issues. And this will also tie in to a later episode on Cording & Decording.

    Trigger warning: Panic attack, crowded subway car. Mentions of anger, emotional manipulation and blackmail. Someone theoretically punching a wall. This is a high-level theoretical episode and should not be specifically triggering, but you still may not want to be operating machinery while listening to it and of course anything can be triggering to someone with a history of abuse. It's always possible others in your head are interested, so a little tip: Listen with the intent for everyone in your system to be able to hear it too: put it on an internal loudspeaker, so that they don't need to front to hear.

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    The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

    Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

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    July 10, 2017 @ 7:00 am

    010 - As Inside, So Outside (and vice versa)

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    As Inside, So Outside (and vice versa) (010)

    The permeable membrane, internal organization, integrity, the cause & effect of being a team player, externalization, acting out, echoes and co-owning your shared life.

    After about 25 years of knowing I am multiple, hanging out with multiples, working with my system, and so on, I came up with this theory that things correlate across the boundary between our internal landscape or reality and the external, consensual reality. This concept of "as inside, so outside" is something we can use to empower us and inform us. When we are more cautious about this permeable boundary, we can craft our external life to have a positive impact on our internal life (and vice versa).

    This is part of a series of podcasts leading up to a capstone on System Trust Issues.

    Trigger warning: This is a high-level theoretical episode and should not be specifically triggering, but you still may not want to be operating machinery while listening to it and of course anything can be triggering to someone with a history of abuse. It's always possible others in your head are interested, so a little tip: Listen with the intent for everyone in your system to be able to hear it too: put it on an internal loudspeaker, so that they don't need to front to hear.

    Links:

    The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

    Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

    The production of this podcast is community supported. Please help contribute, and learn more about what we have to offer at https://www.patreon.com/crisses

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