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The Crisses

When we were 16 we discovered that we weren't alone in our head. And we decided to live as an intentional family. Since, we've been diagnosed, asked whether we wanted to integrate, embarked on a journey of wrestling with PTSD and triggers, unloaded a boatload of baggage, and decided that we enjoy our shared life. This podcast covers many issues about being multiple, about living together in harmony, and more. We are the main contributor to and admin for Kinhost.org, Crisses.org and our newest website TheCrissingLink.com.
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    September 10, 2017 @ 3:00 pm

    019 - United Front: Please Wipe Your Feet Before You Come In

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    United Front: Please Wipe Your Feet Before You Come In (019)

    Starting with and expanding on the United Front Boot Camp post of the same name: leaving your baggage and triggers outside of your meetings and greetings to form internal community.

    When you're starting your internal community, it's best to be on your best behavior with one another and leave your mess outside the meeting room. We go into our "As inside, so outside (and vice versa)" metaphor of treating your system like any household, and wiping the slate and starting over again as new acquaintances in your internal "home".

    Trigger warning: As always, these episodes may not be appropriate while driving. Please mind your triggers, and put our podcasts on broadcast in your internal landscape so anyone who wants to can listen in.

     

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    The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

    Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

    The production of this podcast is community supported. Please help contribute, and learn more about what we have to offer at https://www.patreon.com/crisses

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    July 30, 2017 @ 12:01 pm

    014 - System Trust Issues: Building Trust

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    System Trust Issues: Building Trust (014)

    Now that you've stopped the constant eroding your system trust, what can you do to proactively build it up?

    Part 2 of 2 capstone episodes on System Trust Issues. Click for the first episode: Compromising Trust.

    What are some proactive steps you can take to foster system trust? What changes do you and your headmates need to make to be more trust-worthy? How do you gain trust rather than lose it? Topics include: Locus of Control, Attitude Adjustments, Role-Modeling Behavior, Firm Internal Discipline and Enforcement, How to become more Trustworthy, Ownership (vs. buy-in).

    Trigger warning: Please don't listen while driving and perhaps listen with a good friend and as usual listening could always trigger something for you. It's always possible others in your head are interested, so a little tip: Listen with the intent for everyone in your system to be able to hear it too: put it on an internal loudspeaker, so that they don't need to front to hear.

     

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    The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

    Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

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    July 30, 2017 @ 11:58 am

    013 - System Trust Issues: Compromising Trust

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    System Trust Issues: Compromising Trust (013)

    What is happening in your system that erodes trust and makes it so that it's impossible to even tread water?

     
    Part 1 of 2 capstone episodes on System Trust Issues. Click for the second episode: Building Trust.

    What are the common issues that systems experience that erode trust? What do you need to change so that you and your headmates can get along better? What might you be doing that sabotages system trust? Topics include: You are probably not "the good guy" (and there is no "bad guy" cf episode 009), Sharing your life, Desire to integrate too soon, Words and names matter, Coercive language and behavior, Internal safety, The company you keep.

    Trigger warning: Please don't listen while driving and perhaps listen with a good friend and as usual listening could always trigger something for you. It's always possible others in your head are interested, so a little tip: Listen with the intent for everyone in your system to be able to hear it too: put it on an internal loudspeaker, so that they don't need to front to hear.

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    The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

    Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

    The production of this podcast is community supported. Please help contribute, and learn more about what we have to offer at https://www.patreon.com/crisses

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    July 17, 2017 @ 7:00 am

    011 - Boundaries and Empathy

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    Boundaries and Empathy (011)

    More on what is separate, and what ought to be.

    When the world pushes up against us, it can penetrate our defenses and leave us defenseless, or with unmanageable boundaries and leaks inside and out. What are boundaries? How do boundaries relate to empathy and what do we need to fix them?

    This is part of a series of podcasts leading up to a capstone on System Trust Issues. And this will also tie in to a later episode on Cording & Decording.

    Trigger warning: Panic attack, crowded subway car. Mentions of anger, emotional manipulation and blackmail. Someone theoretically punching a wall. This is a high-level theoretical episode and should not be specifically triggering, but you still may not want to be operating machinery while listening to it and of course anything can be triggering to someone with a history of abuse. It's always possible others in your head are interested, so a little tip: Listen with the intent for everyone in your system to be able to hear it too: put it on an internal loudspeaker, so that they don't need to front to hear.

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    The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

    Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

    The production of this podcast is community supported. Please help contribute, and learn more about what we have to offer at https://www.patreon.com/crisses

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    July 10, 2017 @ 7:00 am

    010 - As Inside, So Outside (and vice versa)

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    As Inside, So Outside (and vice versa) (010)

    The permeable membrane, internal organization, integrity, the cause & effect of being a team player, externalization, acting out, echoes and co-owning your shared life.

    After about 25 years of knowing I am multiple, hanging out with multiples, working with my system, and so on, I came up with this theory that things correlate across the boundary between our internal landscape or reality and the external, consensual reality. This concept of "as inside, so outside" is something we can use to empower us and inform us. When we are more cautious about this permeable boundary, we can craft our external life to have a positive impact on our internal life (and vice versa).

    This is part of a series of podcasts leading up to a capstone on System Trust Issues.

    Trigger warning: This is a high-level theoretical episode and should not be specifically triggering, but you still may not want to be operating machinery while listening to it and of course anything can be triggering to someone with a history of abuse. It's always possible others in your head are interested, so a little tip: Listen with the intent for everyone in your system to be able to hear it too: put it on an internal loudspeaker, so that they don't need to front to hear.

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    The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

    Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

    The production of this podcast is community supported. Please help contribute, and learn more about what we have to offer at https://www.patreon.com/crisses

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    June 26, 2017 @ 6:27 am

    008 - Hiring Health Consultants: Hiring, Firing & Self-Advocacy

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    Hiring Health Consultants: Hiring, Firing & Self-Advocacy (008)

    You are your own best case manager, and here's how to do it.

    In today's healthcare climate, it's more important than ever to be in charge of your own care. You live with your body, mind and spirit 24/7/365, and even if the signals your body gives you are muddied by dissociation or medication, no one else lives with you or can tap into your inner wisdom.

    Whether you choose to use allopathic/Western conventional healthcare, to use alternative or Eastern health care, or any other means of caring for yourself, you should be empowered to be in charge. Your professional team are your consultants, and you should be directing them in how you want your care handled.

    This is an issue of our times, not a specific DID issue. Every person who requires health care (whether medical, mental, or spiritual) should listen to this episode for tips on controlling who is on your health care team, and what your treatment plans will be.

    Trigger warning: This episode may not have any specific triggery content. It may not be easy to transition from "patient" to "client" of your health, there's plenty of reason to.

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    Go-to questions for a plan-less session

    • What was your biggest health challenge since the last appointment?
    • Do you have any new symptoms, areas of concern or issues that they need to be appraised of?
    • What progress or realizations have you made since the last appointment? i.e. do your meds need adjusting? did you think of something new they need to know?

    The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

    Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

    The production of this podcast is community supported. Please help contribute, and learn more about what we have to offer at https://www.patreon.com/crisses

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    June 12, 2017 @ 7:10 am

    006 - Can’t We All Get Along?

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    Who needs the United Front Boot Camp?

    The first step is figuring out where you are and where you'd like to go. In this episode, we consider how chaos and anarchy don't work for any group entity, internal or external, and how to take a stand and decide you are not going to participate in chaos any longer and invite others to join you. Also includes an effective way to address behaviors that bother you borrowed from The Feedback Model from Manager Tools.

    Trigger warning: United Front is a progressive path towards building internal community and it isn't going to be for everyone. However these principles can be used to create communities from chaos both internally and externally so it may be of use to anyone. Please mind your own triggers: there is nothing in this episode that particularly stands out as a common trigger; it addresses internal disorganization and chaos versus communication methods and coming to consensus with few examples.

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    The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

    Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

    The production of this podcast is community supported. Please help contribute, and learn more about what we have to offer at https://www.patreon.com/crisses

     

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    June 5, 2017 @ 7:01 am

    005 - Introduction to United Front

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    What is United Front and the United Front Boot Camp? Why did we make it? Who needs it?

    In 2011 we started creating the United Front Boot Camp, a preliminary blog to share the ideas for our self-help book in The Crissing Link Series: United Front: Positive, proactive and collaborative self-help for people with multiple personalities. We knew we needed to get some input and opinions on United Front before publishing it, before knowing whether our ideas would work for other people.

    We've gotten some opinions, and at least some multiple systems find it useful. Now it's time to introduce it to a wider audience in the hopes of helping more people and hopefully getting more critical input.

    Trigger warning: United Front isn't going to be for everyone. We wouldn't ever do it ourselves if we hadn't created it ourselves. If you want to know why, check out MMOTI Episode 004 on Conformity. If you also have non-conformist baggage, then feel free to check out United Front and steal our ideas and re-make them for your own personal use but don't tell anyone because that might be too conformist.

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    The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

    Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

    The production of this podcast is community supported. Please help contribute, and learn more about what we have to offer at https://www.patreon.com/crisses

     

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