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The Crisses

When we were 16 we discovered that we weren't alone in our head. And we decided to live as an intentional family. Since, we've been diagnosed, asked whether we wanted to integrate, embarked on a journey of wrestling with PTSD and triggers, unloaded a boatload of baggage, and decided that we enjoy our shared life. This podcast covers many issues about being multiple, about living together in harmony, and more. We are the main contributor to and admin for Kinhost.org, Crisses.org and our newest website TheCrissingLink.com.
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    July 30, 2017 @ 12:01 pm

    014 - System Trust Issues: Building Trust

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    System Trust Issues: Building Trust (014)

    Now that you've stopped the constant eroding your system trust, what can you do to proactively build it up?

    Part 2 of 2 capstone episodes on System Trust Issues. Click for the first episode: Compromising Trust.

    What are some proactive steps you can take to foster system trust? What changes do you and your headmates need to make to be more trust-worthy? How do you gain trust rather than lose it? Topics include: Locus of Control, Attitude Adjustments, Role-Modeling Behavior, Firm Internal Discipline and Enforcement, How to become more Trustworthy, Ownership (vs. buy-in).

    Trigger warning: Please don't listen while driving and perhaps listen with a good friend and as usual listening could always trigger something for you. It's always possible others in your head are interested, so a little tip: Listen with the intent for everyone in your system to be able to hear it too: put it on an internal loudspeaker, so that they don't need to front to hear.

     

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    The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

    Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

    The production of this podcast is community supported. Please help contribute, and learn more about what we have to offer at https://www.patreon.com/crisses

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    July 30, 2017 @ 11:58 am

    013 - System Trust Issues: Compromising Trust

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    System Trust Issues: Compromising Trust (013)

    What is happening in your system that erodes trust and makes it so that it's impossible to even tread water?

     
    Part 1 of 2 capstone episodes on System Trust Issues. Click for the second episode: Building Trust.

    What are the common issues that systems experience that erode trust? What do you need to change so that you and your headmates can get along better? What might you be doing that sabotages system trust? Topics include: You are probably not "the good guy" (and there is no "bad guy" cf episode 009), Sharing your life, Desire to integrate too soon, Words and names matter, Coercive language and behavior, Internal safety, The company you keep.

    Trigger warning: Please don't listen while driving and perhaps listen with a good friend and as usual listening could always trigger something for you. It's always possible others in your head are interested, so a little tip: Listen with the intent for everyone in your system to be able to hear it too: put it on an internal loudspeaker, so that they don't need to front to hear.

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    System Trust Issues foundation concepts:

    The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

    Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

    The production of this podcast is community supported. Please help contribute, and learn more about what we have to offer at https://www.patreon.com/crisses

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    July 24, 2017 @ 9:13 pm

    012 - Panic Reactions: 8 Important F-Words

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    Panic Reactions: 8 Important F-Words (012)

    We've all heard of "fight or flight" reactions. In this episode we outline 8 different panic reactions and how they play out in multiplicity.

    Why are there predictable roles in a multiple system? We outline 8 "F-Word" panic reactions: Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, Follow, Fortify, Fabricate and Facilitate, and then tie them into roles we play in our multiple system and why it's important to helping build system trust.

    This is part of a series of podcasts leading up to a capstone on System Trust Issues.

    Trigger warning: A few mentions of panic-worthy situations, internal prosecutors, and as usual we could always trigger something. It's always possible others in your head are interested, so a little tip: Listen with the intent for everyone in your system to be able to hear it too: put it on an internal loudspeaker, so that they don't need to front to hear.

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    The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

    Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

    The production of this podcast is community supported. Please help contribute, and learn more about what we have to offer at https://www.patreon.com/crisses

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    July 17, 2017 @ 7:00 am

    011 - Boundaries and Empathy

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    Boundaries and Empathy (011)

    More on what is separate, and what ought to be.

    When the world pushes up against us, it can penetrate our defenses and leave us defenseless, or with unmanageable boundaries and leaks inside and out. What are boundaries? How do boundaries relate to empathy and what do we need to fix them?

    This is part of a series of podcasts leading up to a capstone on System Trust Issues. And this will also tie in to a later episode on Cording & Decording.

    Trigger warning: Panic attack, crowded subway car. Mentions of anger, emotional manipulation and blackmail. Someone theoretically punching a wall. This is a high-level theoretical episode and should not be specifically triggering, but you still may not want to be operating machinery while listening to it and of course anything can be triggering to someone with a history of abuse. It's always possible others in your head are interested, so a little tip: Listen with the intent for everyone in your system to be able to hear it too: put it on an internal loudspeaker, so that they don't need to front to hear.

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    The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

    Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

    The production of this podcast is community supported. Please help contribute, and learn more about what we have to offer at https://www.patreon.com/crisses

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    July 10, 2017 @ 7:00 am

    010 - As Inside, So Outside (and vice versa)

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    As Inside, So Outside (and vice versa) (010)

    The permeable membrane, internal organization, integrity, the cause & effect of being a team player, externalization, acting out, echoes and co-owning your shared life.

    After about 25 years of knowing I am multiple, hanging out with multiples, working with my system, and so on, I came up with this theory that things correlate across the boundary between our internal landscape or reality and the external, consensual reality. This concept of "as inside, so outside" is something we can use to empower us and inform us. When we are more cautious about this permeable boundary, we can craft our external life to have a positive impact on our internal life (and vice versa).

    This is part of a series of podcasts leading up to a capstone on System Trust Issues.

    Trigger warning: This is a high-level theoretical episode and should not be specifically triggering, but you still may not want to be operating machinery while listening to it and of course anything can be triggering to someone with a history of abuse. It's always possible others in your head are interested, so a little tip: Listen with the intent for everyone in your system to be able to hear it too: put it on an internal loudspeaker, so that they don't need to front to hear.

    Links:

    The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

    Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

    The production of this podcast is community supported. Please help contribute, and learn more about what we have to offer at https://www.patreon.com/crisses

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    July 3, 2017 @ 8:14 am

    009 - Welcome to DID: We Are Not Your Enemy

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    Welcome to DID: We Are Not Your Enemy (009)

    Got chaos? Got malcontents? Persecutors? Here's a change in perspective and attitude to help you wake up to your new reality.

    This is an internal persecutor's mini manifesto on behalf of all your headmates, especially those you haven't met, and your potentially intimidating internal prosecutors. Buck of Crisses gives a prosecutor's perspective on internal politics, self-discovery, and a way to help you adjust to your new reality in dealing with DID and when you are experiencing excessive internal chaos. Your headmates are your potential allies, but pushing them away can create more problems for you and your system than you think.

    A message for your inner buddies: this is our smack upside the head for the main front(s) of your system. We're trying to change the paradigm in regard to dealing with the unknown or feared portions of your system so that you don't have to focus your energy inwards towards getting room to breathe from your headmates, and you can spend more time protecting the system from things outside your body.

    This is part of a series of podcasts leading up to a capstone on System Trust Issues.

    Trigger warning: This is an episode specifically advocating on behalf of internal unknowns and non-co-conscious people, etc. As such it may cause them to have opinions about it. This episode may be very triggering. You may want to find someone safe to listen to it with, or find a way to stay grounded during this episode. See the message for your inner buddies above, too.  Tip: Listen with the intent for everyone in your system to be able to hear it too: put it on an internal loudspeaker, so that they don't need to front to hear.

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    The contents of this podcast are meant for informational purposes only. This podcast is meant only for adults, and listener discretion is strongly advised. By no means are the contents of this podcast series intended to diagnose any illness or replace the treatment or therapy of persons in need. Please seek professional assistance if you are in distress in any way.

    Music and intro vocals by The Crisses, created in Garageband. All contents © Criss Ittermann. Permission to share. And share again.

    The production of this podcast is community supported. Please help contribute, and learn more about what we have to offer at https://www.patreon.com/crisses

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